Parenting can be very difficult and stressful. However, we presume that we should manage stress and difficulties at all times. Very few persons realize that inability to fulfill parenting duties can leave both partners frustrated and irritated. This can easily take a toll on the relationship.
It is important to understand that there are various external factors affecting one’s parenting duties. The father may be very keen on helping the mother take care of the infant. However, the tough economy, uncertainty and parenting stress can easily discourage the keen father. The mother may misunderstand lack of interest on part of father and this can lead to difficulties and arguments.
Sharing of parenting duties need not come naturally. In fact, it is advisable to have elders around to take care of these issues. The solution may be completely based on tradition and obsolete mindset. However, the solution will be a starting point for further analysis and sharing. It is a much better option than having two persons who have not slept due to the baby arguing over who shall complete household chores.
In this initial period, it is essential to keep parenting very simple and uncomplicated. Rather than focusing on the ideal scenario, one should make do with whatever one has. If you do not have the luxury of having elders in the house, then you should simply skip certain tasks until you prepared to do it all over again.
By focusing on cleanliness in the baby’s room and by being a bit relaxed as far as rest of the house is concerned, you can save energy and spend time recuperating from the onerous duties of parenting. This is not the ideal situation but it certainly is better than overworking yourself and then getting into a fight with your partner due to frustration and irritation.